Renee and Mandy were married this past fall at the stunning Nestleton Waters Inn.. post to follow. Late in the summer we met up for their engagement shoot. I’ll be completely transparent as I write this blog post. When you’re a preferred vendor at some locations, many times, I don’t even meet my clients prior to doing their engagement shoot/wedding which was much the same for this couple. As we began contacting each other about getting their engagement shoot done, I quickly realized that they were not my typical bride and groom, and in fact they were two brides.. this would mark my very first lesbian wedding. Now, after shooting a couple of them now, the question begs, is it a lesbian/gay wedding or just a wedding? Do we put labels on normal weddings? If not, why do we feel the need to do it with these couples? So, anyways.. off I go to shoot their engagement shoot not sure of what to expect or how comfortable/uncomfortable I’d feel as this was my first time.
The shoot began, and I quickly fell in love with these two girls, their personalities were so fun, loving, down to earth, relaxed, and most of all.. CHILL! I can’t even begin to describe how much fun it was shooting these two, and their photos were a true representation of just how relaxed and in love they are! As I kept shooting, I envisioned in my head what they’d look like on their wedding day, and how much fun I was going to have, which essentially was exactly how their wedding day turned out.. stunning, and so so much fun!
So back to this whole lesbian/gay topic. I’m not out to start any controversy.. just to share a bit of light from my neck of the woods. I grew up in a small town, and live in an even smaller one now. Needless to say, throughout my childhood/early adult years, this was something I only heard about from the media, friends, etc. As I entered a career in the arts and entertainment industry several years ago, it became more and more prevalent as I met hundreds if not thousands of people from all races, and backgrounds every weekend. I saw more and more gay and lesbian couples at weddings, and while i was shooting in the city. I had never imagined that one day I would have the pleasure of shooting one, and hopefully many more of their weddings. I personally know many photographers out there that would steer clear of shooting a wedding like this, whether it’s something to do with their beliefs, being uncomfortable, or entering into a realm of their personal unknown.. either way, everyone has the right to make decisions for their business, just as they do for their lives, much like Renee and Mandy chose to marry each other.
I can’t thank these two amazing ladies enough for allowing me to be such a huge part of their special day, and giving me an insight and a level of complete comfort with this as I move on with my business and continue to shoot any client that comes through my door. I loved working with you two and can’t wait to see you again at some of my future weddings!
Here’s a quick little preview from their engagement session, and I will be posting their wedding very soon, so stay tuned!
For some reason, I always find it more difficult to shoot people I know. It’s not like it’s different than any other wedding, but there’s always this anticipation in the back of my mind leading up to the day, that it has to be the perfect day, perfect weather, perfect lighting, perfect everything!! These thoughts are in my mind leading up to all my weddings, but it always seems more prevalent when it’s someone I know, as if I know on these days that I have to do a great job, or my life, reputation depends on it.. but then I ask myself, how is that different from anything else that I shoot? Well I know I always give my 100%, regardless of the situation, but it just seems closer to home when you know the couple, or know them through friends.
Well, Deb and Dan were those clients, regular every day wedding clients, but also my neighbor’s sister. From what I heard, I was bragged about to the upper echelon of brags to Deb, so that she would hire me for her wedding day… no pressure right? Well, the day started off with me fearing the worst, pouring rain was being called for all day, and the wedding was to be held at a fairly new venue, SOUTH POND FARMS… which meant an outdoor ceremony, etc etc. This meant the ceremony would likely be held inside the tight quarters of a barn for the ceremony, trying to find somewhere to shoot the bride and groom, bridal party, and family photos indoors if the forecasters were right … UGH.. sometimes at a small venue, a photographers worst nightmare. Well, it just so happened, that after the morning rain stopped, the fog rolled in and made for some of the best shooting conditions I’ve ever got to work with. I specifically remember talking to Deb just prior to the ceremony as it seemed like everyone was trying to convince her to have her ceremony indoors in case the rain came back, but I managed to convince her to have it outdoors at all costs. I kept looking over the ceremony site, on the top of a hill with the fog in the background.. just looked so surreal, there was no way I could shoot it in the barn. Her dream was to get married outside in nature, and that’s exactly what she did. I don’t think it could have turned out any better than it did.
Their wedding was small, quaint, personal, and full of all the little details that I was expecting, as I know Deb and her sister are frequent ‘pintresters’ This was my first time at SOUTH POND FARMS, and I have to say, for a country wedding venue, it was absolutely incredible! The location, the staff, the reception held in what I presume was a 100+ year old barn.. was very vintage, and I can’t wait to shoot there again.
I certainly hope Deb and Dan enjoy these photos telling the story of their wedding day, because I know I most definitely enjoyed shooting it, and having such a big role in a part of their wedding day!
Congratulations DD.. I wish you all the best in the years to come!